Friday, March 7, 2014

Babies. My Future Struggle


We all know that the lovely Skinny Meg had her beautiful baby boy, Aiden on Wednesday.

Babies, a true miracle. For me though, they scare me, and for selfish reasons at that.

Like most woman, I can't wait to have kids and when I do, I want it to be planned and go perfectly, or as close to perfect as I can get. What really scares me, the selfish reasons, are I've lost all this weight, and then a baby is going to reverse it all. For the longest time that is how I looked at it. But as I've watched Megan get pregnant, workout and have this amazingly healthy pregnancy. It has relieved so many of my fears. 

It isn't going to wreck my body. My body is awesome, it was made to be a baby factory, it was made to bounce back and bounce back it will. I can still workout while I'm pregnant, I can still eat healthy, and I can keep my lifestyle. I find myself struck with baby fever. So many people ( in real life and on the Internet) that I  know are having babies or about too. But the hubs and I made a plan. 

We sat down and had a talk once about when we want to have kids and what life goals we want to hit before bringing a life into this world. We decided that we wanted to be fully ready to dedicate our life to the child not just throw it into the mix. We are starting to get closer to the goals and when we want to have kids. I personally want to just be in shape, in hopes that will help me bounce back afterwards. Like most adults I want to be financially stable also. 

I know it sounds selfish about the being in shape business, but I really want it for my future with my kids. I want to be the mom that's out running around and playing, not that mom that has to sit on the sidelines. I want to be involved in their activeness, and show them how to have a healthy lifestyle so that they never have to go through the teasing and emotional stress I had to because of my weight. The more I think of it, the more I realize that maybe it really isn't that selfish. I mean, if I'm healthy, I (hopefully) won't have a high risk pregnancy, I'll be able to heal faster, and hopefully the baby won't have any health issues if I'm treating its growing home right.

Does anyone else have these fears?

It's still cool and rainy up in Kansas. BOOO! So the hubs and I will probably just go out to dinner and then walk around Wal Mart to kill time and walk.

Do you ever just walk around a store to get in some walking?

But we have a mini Dr Who Marathon on Netflix that is calling our name right now, so I better get in there before the Tardis leaves me behind.

What are your weekend plans?


  1. You can never be truly prepared for a baby! I was only 20 and scared out of my mind, but hey, we all survived!

  2. These are my fears EXACTLY. This is the exact reason I postponed getting healthy last year. My and my significant other were trying and I kept saying, oh, I'll wait till after baby and lose everything at once but then I stopped that and I finally realized that I have to get healthy before I can have babies. I don't think it's selfish at all though...

  3. You are preparing your body now--the hard work and new habits you are learning will help you when you get pregnant to have a fit and healthy pregnancy. You just have to remain intentional, and not throw your hands up and say "I can EAT ALL THE FOOD because I'm pregnant!" Or it will be so much harder to get it all off--I'm living proof. I lost alot of weight pre-kids--got pregnant and used it as an excuse to eat everything I couldn't have before. Not smart. Still working hard to get it off...12 years later!! (It ain't baby weight anymore--it's just fat!)

  4. I feel the exact same way. I feel like I finally understand my body and am getting it into amazing shape that I feel like having kids will just change everything. When I express that to people they tell me that I'm right, my body will forever be changed but the miracle of life and the child is worth it. Basically, I'm still skeptical. But it's human nature to fear change. I used to fear going to the gym but now I love it.

  5. I don't think it' selfish at all. The woman goes through so many changes not only with her body when having a baby, but her mentality, maturity, responsibility....everything!! I have a little boy who is about 1 1/2 now and it took some time to get back to my pre-baby weight - over a year for sure. My only word of advice is to NEVER compare yourself to others when you are pregnant. I have a friend who had a great pregnancy, gained the right amount of weight, was able to nurse and the weight just fell off her. It was crazy how fast she lost weight and now she is smaller than when she started. Myself, that did not happen to me. I couldn't nurse, the weight just stuck to me (even after doing Insanity for a month I didn't lose one pound) and it took me a long time to get the weight off. All you can do is do your best. Just don't put yourself on a timeframe for anything because if you are trying and doing your best, you will reach your goal either way. I also agree with some of the other comments, you will never be fully ready for a kid because there is no way to prepare. Every kid is different. But, once you have a baby you will figure things out, make things work, and find your groove. Good luck! Baby's are seriously the best! :)

    ~Devon @ La Du It 2 It

  6. I HAVE THE EXACT SAME FEARS!!! And they are in full swing as we are currently trying to get pregnant. Over the last several years I've lost close to 100 pounds and I'm in the best shape I've ever been in fitness wise. I try to eat good and I workout 6 days a week. While I want a baby more than anything in this world, the thought of what it could do to my body terrifies me. I was overweight my whole life until recently (and still have some weight to lose). I just keep telling myself that I've done it before and I can do it again! I just have to keep the same motivation. My husband also believes that since I fear it and worked so hard for it, that I will make better choices throughout pregnancy (when it happens) and not go too crazy with the eating. But you are definitely not alone!

  7. I too fear that...But then I realize I won't really be in the right shape to have a baby within at least the next 5 years. But I think there are still some ways to keep fit during pregnancy? I see instagram posts about women who workout during pregnancy sometimes--of course, not too strenuously though. But even on my time of the month I do crave some crazy things and I'm scared that's gonna escalate if I'm pregnant. But just remember if you do go through it soon, you're still the beautiful self you always are, and that you can accomplish your goals! :)

  8. Not is smart!
    My first pregnancy when I was heavy was not an easy pregnancy (and I wasn't significantly overweight, at 180) and I didn't start my commitment and journey to better myself until after he was two years old. At the time, another baby wasn't in the vision so I pushed myself to get healthy. And when I lost all the weight, down to 132, I never felt confident that I could maintain it if I jumped right back into a pregnancy. So I made an internal promise that if I could maintain my loss and lifestyle for two years, then perhaps I had changed my lifestyle for real and had really learned how to live with a healthy outlook and routine.
    Pregnancy#2, despite being six years old, was such a healthier pregnancy for me. Long story short, is that you have valid reasons to be in a healthy place before adding to the mix or changing your lifestyle because they sure do!! But no matter how, you'd never regret bringing them in :)

  9. 2 pregnancies and month after each delivery I was back down to my normal weight...I gained weight after wards being bored and stressed. So don't let pregnancy scare you - we're all different. Finding the time to exercise post kids is the tricky part for me.

  10. I need to hear all of this ladies!! Thank you! You've made me feel alot easier about having kids and waiting to be in shape and then bouncing back!!!